Mother’s Lap Is Always The Child’s Home

My body was your home, your shelter, and you were there as a temporary resident for nine months. After that, my skin was your warmth, protection, and comfort, and so I was able to tell you that you could always keep me by your side.

And that’s why my kids, whenever you want, you can keep my body safe – until you run faster than me, and until you no longer need me to walk by your side.

There are certainly more than one mother or father who, reading this text, miss the days when the baby needed so much intimacy:  those nine months when she made her nest in our arms and breathed in whispers, cried, sobbed, and as her little hand wrapped around one of our fingers.

These days go by quickly, they are almost like a sigh or a gust of wind that comes and goes, and that ultimately leaves us with only a memory. However, our bodies and  intimacy are still a necessary and, in fact, vital thing for a child over the age of three.

We on the Miracle of Motherhood blog now want to tell you about how necessary it is for a mother to keep her body as a physical refuge even after the pregnancy is over. Your arms and skin are a kind of protective layer so your child can feel safe and grow up happy.

My body is your home for as long as you need it

Children are wise and know what their basic needs are. It is therefore our duty to understand and manage these needs properly. It doesn’t matter if your little one is already 3 or 4 years old when he asks you to hold him in his arms – this moment of pampering, which sometimes lasts only five minutes, offers your child comfort and makes him feel loved and refreshed. It allows your child to return to play at full intensity.

We know that sometimes this is difficult for us mothers – every time the child weighs a little more again and when we have to put our own things aside again to carry him on request. He is sometimes looking for us when we are in a hurry or when we have other things that would just have to be taken care of.

However, keep in mind that  the days when a child wants to be in your arms end very quickly, so why not enjoy them to the fullest now?

Carry your baby against your body and take him with you everywhere

Babies are born with a very underdeveloped brain.  The level of neural connections in the brain is only 25% of what a person can have in adulthood.

However, there is one thing that should not be ignored: during the first 3-4 years, the human brain functions at its maximum capacity and has nearly 1 ooo trillion neural connections.

So we should take advantage of this step, and therefore there is nothing better than  carrying a baby everywhere and as often as possible – and of course as it makes sense.

For example, if you are a working mother and you have no choice but to be away from your baby for a few hours, do not hesitate to do the following:

• When you come home from work, take the baby in your arms and press him against yourself.
• Carry your baby as much as you can so he can be close to your breasts.
• That way, your little one won’t suffer as much anxiety when you have to go to work. He can wait, and as soon as you put him back against your body, he gets to be with his mother again.

My body was your home, and it will always be a lap you can return to if needed

When your little one is 6 or 7 years old, his or her life is full of different people that are important. He has fellow gardeners and schoolmates with whom to play and gain new experiences. The world becomes wider in his eyes, and it may seem that parents are no longer so important.

However, don’t think this way because a mother or father is always vital to a child. You are the roots of your child and the person who will always guide him from the heart and who will always speak to him in sincere language.  You are the one who always wants the best of the world for him and who wants to give him only the best. A piece of heaven or stars, if needed.

So don’t be afraid if from the beginning you have allowed the intimacy of your body to become your child’s home, and if your body may have been that little nest where you take a nap that calms your fears or wipes away tears.

For when your child is  10, 12 or even 20 years old, he will be grateful and give you a strong hug to  remind himself that “everything is going to be OK”, “you are special” and there is no problem that would not be solution ’. He will remember you as he hugs that he will always be loved.