How To Promote A Child’s Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is now almost a buzzword, and the subject is being talked about more than ever. Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize the meaning of emotions and use this information to solve problems. It is the ability to recognize, appreciate, and value our own and others ’feelings so that our actions are in harmony with the feelings we experience. In this article, we talk about how to promote the development of a child’s emotional intelligence.

What is emotional intelligence?

Many scientific studies have confirmed that the skills and abilities needed to succeed in life are not things that can be measured by intelligence tests. A high IQ is hardly worth anything if we don’t understand the feelings of others and are not empathetic.

Most parents are aware that raising a child is closely related to emotional development. Relationships between family members play a key role in the emotional well-being of the whole family. On the other hand, relationships within the family can also cause conflicts, discomfort, and negative emotions that affect the whole family.

A peaceful, calm, harmonious and happy home is the perfect environment for healthy emotional development . Parents are the child’s first role models, and it is important for them to be aware of their own feelings. So they need to understand what emotions they are experiencing, where those emotions are coming from, and what consequences they may have.

In this way, you promote the development of the child’s emotional intelligence

In order to help your children control their emotions well, they should be taught to express their emotions in words from childhood.  It is important to teach the child to connect with himself so that he can better understand how he feels and then express this.

Any situation or moment can be a good opportunity for a child to practice and develop their own emotional awareness.

It is also important that the child pays attention to his or her feelings, whether these are negative or positive, i.e., happiness, sadness, or anger, for example. Thus, he is able to identify and name these feelings.

The child should also try to look for reasons for a particular emotion so that he or she can  find out what has led to it and, above all, so that he or she can find out why he or she is feeling this way. In short, this allows the child to become more aware of their feelings on their own.

When it comes to negative emotions, teach your child to look for alternatives to those emotions. For example, if something has made him angry, let him notice that in the same situation, he can react in many different ways, and a person does not always make the best choice in this matter.

In many situations, emotions correspond to our thoughts and actions, and by learning from and responding to them, we can be more empathetic and flexible.

Traits of emotionally intelligent parents

• They have the physical and mental tools for self-control.
• They rely on facts first rather than prejudices. First impressions are not always everything.
• They are able to see the good side of things, that is, turn the negative into the positive.
• They know how to take responsibility for their own actions and learn from the mistakes they make.
• They are able to set boundaries and be strict if this is necessary.
• They are interested in meeting new people.

This will allow you and your child to develop his or her emotional intelligence

At a very young age, our children are exposed to numerous emotions that they must learn to perceive in a good way in order for them to behave well.

This is important to ensure that the child has good social skills and that he or she can take an active part in society  – all of which then comes to the fore in the child’s satisfaction.

Here are some things you should work with your child to help him or her develop emotional intelligence:

Communication

• Create a space where the child can talk and listen openly and actively.
• Replace closed questions with open ones.

Identifying strengths

• Give applause for your child’s accomplishments and the effort these have required.
• Don’t judge him for bad behavior.
• Encourage me to show love.

Help your child survive difficult times

• Make her feel safe and calm.

Help the child control their own feelings

• Help him face the situations and find a solution together with him.
• Approach conflicts in such a way that your child can learn from these situations.

Remember that promoting your child’s emotional intelligence development will not only help you develop better relationships and communication at home. Improving emotional intelligence also allows the child to develop naturally in the future. In this way, you promote that he makes his own decisions and acts accordingly.